Cyber-predator Sexual and method of approach to victim
Cyber-predator sex and their approach to the victim (Pisano, 2011)
The cyber predator, during the relationship-forming stages, he may try to seduce the young victim, taking care (grooming) of his inner world. To this end, it could easily take advantage of the individual and relational problems typical of pre-adolescence and then a phase of life characterized by a deep uncertainty, presenting itself as the only adult who can understand and contain such discomfort.
Tested repertoire of generic questions (aimed to probe the willingness to address the issue), “How’s it going with your parents ?, rhetorical (which contain an implicit response), “Your father and your mother, do they esteem you?”, “Do they truly realize your problems?” and seductive (because they are intended to enhance the quality of the young victim), “But they have figured out what you’re worth ?, “They understand that we should give more confidence, given your skills?”, allow the cyber predator to make people believe they have finally found a pre-adolescent adult authoritative and especially different from his parents with whom he can talk without running the risk of quarrel and be judged.
Then adding some moderate positive comment on their work, “Surely they love you but they can not prove it because they have many problems. You know you have to understand, “the primer avoids entering the competition and maintains a neutral position strategically, aimed to completely conquer the trust of the young victim. The cyber predator is thus presented as a positive parental substitute, a loving father capable of embodying the ideal Oedipus and thus fulfil the desire of pre-adolescent to interact with a perfect father figure.
This is clearly an experience confusing and mystifying because the plan is superimposed on the fantasies of reality, in an environment in which it already operates the confusion of logical processes, and the pre-adolescent, while he builds a relationship with the cyber predator, search unconsciously realize the Oedipal desire to conquer the father figure. And in fact, if the goal is to merge unconscious psychologically with the ideal father, personified by cyber-predator, the actual effect is likely to be sexually abused by the groomer online. Obviously not all young people are so sensitive to issues or Oedipal enough to engage in sexual activities with cyber predators but only those that have experienced significant emotional deprivation and that can be traced in these relationships at risk those psychological care that they have received from their parents.
Finally, we point out that the cyber predator does not work as the real father and then the “third”, acting as a mirror, it can progressively lead to less differentiation from the mother and then the successful resolution of the Oedipus complex. But being “the third” digital and therefore a fragmented mirror, will tend to strengthen the young victim the symbiotic processes between the real and the virtual identity and thus stimulate mental functioning based on partial object relations.
With the result that the young victim will tend to blur even more pathologically and bind with the primer on line, perceiving only its positive aspects.