Features and phases oh grooming


Also referred to as grooming, a term that indicates the behaviour of an animal that keeps the cleanliness and hygiene of a fellow, soliciting online is a slow iterative process through which the cyber predator develops an intimate and lasting with a young victim, “taking care” of his psychological world.

The main phases of the interactive process are:

  • The phase of the formation of friendship or friendship forming stages;
  • The training phase of the relationship or relationship-forming stages;
  • The phase of the risk assessment or risk assessment requirements;
  • The phase relationship of exclusivity or exclusivity requirements.

During the first phase of the process approach (O’Connell, 2003), called the formation of friendship, cyber predator seeks to know the preadolescent and ask them to send a photograph to assess its physical characteristics and, if residing nearby, it can also be recognized.

Awarded friendship, endeavour to become his best friend, discussing with him matters pertaining to the school, to the musical interests and personal and family issues. And it is devoting time and attention to the cyber predator aims to consolidate knowledge and to become the centre of interest affective and cognitive (training of the report) of the victim.

To assess, then, the risks (risk assessment stage) that could run, maintaining a relationship online with a child, asks him where the computer is located and if the parents can monitor or participate in its virtual activities. Only after finding that there is no danger of being discovered, and that the young victim is now convinced to have found a true friend, cyber predator advised her to keep the relationship secret, in order to make it special and exclusive (exclusivity stage): “You’re a special person and I love you”, “Please do not tell anyone about this love of ours.”

At this point, the next phase of Sexuality (sexual stage) is generally introduced with questions like “Have you ever been kissed / a?” Or “Have you ever touched / a?” Or “I’d kiss you” that are rarely perceived as intrusive by the young victim, due to the intense bond, intimate and exclusive that has built with his “best friend” on line.

The cyber predator, taking advantage at this point the emotional involvement of the pre-adolescent, will try to present itself as a potential “boyfriend” / lover, writing that perhaps one day will meet to show him the love he feels and that in the meantime would be happy to receive some photographs that shows him naked when you touch the genital area.

And in this regard is not seldom dwells in the descriptions of sexual activities that in the future the couple could do together, inquiring about the preferences and tastes of the child. But it could also send conflicting messages, in which coercion (“I want to touch you while I think of you”) is counterbalanced by the quest for intimacy (“I love you, you will like to do this, you do not want to make me happy?”) In order to frighten and at the same time excite, confusing.